miercuri, 26 octombrie 2016

deschide. iubeste. servește.

pai in loc sa promovam competenta, promovam servilismul...cum sa iesim din mocirla servitilor?
...întrebam eu public, pe Facebook, evident revoltata, acrita și la capătul răbdării in 2011.

Evident ca la capătul răbdării asteia am ajuns sa reconfigurez propria-mi intelegere, astfel încât sa nu mai plec dimineață cu nodul in stomac la office, unde, mai mult și culmea, îmi plăcea mult ce fac.
Cum am făcut asta? M-am pus in pantofii celuilalt, obiectiv. Am intrat in rolul lui si am descoperit o realitate care mi-a schimbat gustul in gura, m-a rușinat, ba chiar m-a înduioșat, după care  mi-a mutat  percepția dinspre judecata înspre realitate, dinspre minte spre inima: "mocirla" asta a "servitilor" semăna fix cu mocirla mea, a "servitorului"...era peiorativa  si plina de alte griji si aceleași frici...nah ...ca mocirla :) cu toții o cunoaștem mai bine sau mai puțin.

Omenește, am înțeles ca dacă ieșim din judecata și deschidem ușa spre înțelegere, aflam ca suntem toți la fel: unii in serviciul altora.
Si aste este absolut divin.
Acum mai rămâne sa dispară discret din decor stăpânul de sclavi. Preferabil definitiv :)))

marți, 14 iunie 2016

If I Tell You There's a Way to Have It All, Are You Willing to Pay the Price?

There is an old saying that ,,nothing is free''. I got to think about this for a while and ancient symbols came to my mind : Yin and Yang, the Uroboros, the Phoenix. There is no light without darkness, no sun without the night, no ups without downs. It is all going into cycles that begin to anew as soon as they end. We can not know the ecstasy if we don't come to acknowlegde agony first - and the deeper the agony, the deeper the ecstasy will be.
Everything has to be paid for. For ecstasy, we have to pay in agony. You have to go through deep pain to get rid of pain. It is a cleansing process. Pain is a fire: it burns the garbage you have in you and allows the beauty to reveal itself. Just as we purify gold through fire, consciousness is purified through pain. Pain has something to deliver to you. All you have to do is to stay alert. Don't avoid pain! If you avoid pain, you are avoiding pleasure. Don't avoid darkness. If you avoid darkness, dawn will never come. Only out of the dark night, the morning is born. And when the night is darkest, the sunrise is close. Remember this fundamental law of life, this paradox. The real lessons, the ones that transform you, will cleanse you, purify you. Yes, your wounds will hurt again and again, although you are hiding them. You are hiding them, that's why they are not healing. They have to be brought to sunlight, to fresh air. They have to be exposed. Only in that exposure they will start healing. Even if it hurts. The more you want to be healed, the more it will hurt. You have been hiding the wounds for so long ... you have to let them out of your system now. This agony is not a curse, it is a blessing.Because out of this agony, slowly, slowly, you will arise just like a Phoenix. Acceptance is the only way. Accept the pain, accept the wounds, accept yourself as you are! Don't try to pretend to be somebody else, don't try to show that you are not in pain. Don't go on pretending and laughing while your heart is crying. Don't smile if your eyes are full of tears. Don't be inauthentic, because by being inauthentic you are simply protecting your wounds from being healed. Your whole being will become a huge wound. You are full of wounds and unhealed scars. And you are somehow managing this so that nobody should know how much you hurt inside. You avoid going inside yourself because you avoid to recognize that you are not as happy as you pretend to be. And that's why you can't allow anybody to enter your heart, that's why you can't love. Because love will need exposure and a willing to open. You can't make contact, because this would let others see the things you are hiding. But what is the point of hiding? What else can happen to you , that you didn't experience yet? Why do you think that you can get more broken than you already are? By letting it all out, by revealing you true self you will be redeemed. So allow yourself to show your pain. Like a declaration that doors are open, have the courage to give the keys of your soul to the world. This will be painful, of course.It will be like a surgery. Healing is always painful. But be courageous. Go through it with your head up and have faith.Be willing to pay the price for your redemption. SURSA

joi, 7 aprilie 2016

P A U Z A D E R A S . Z I L N I C.

"Babies Laughing Uncontrollably”

A-dorable via Pixable

Posted by The Huffington Post on Saturday, 7 November 2015

miercuri, 6 aprilie 2016

Carmen Sterian (Wunderman): Generatia 18-30 nu mai e reprezentata de catre branduri, cum au fost generatiile 34+

Cum se creeaza prieteniile noi? Ai nevoie de reciprocitate, intelegere, compatibilitate si alte chestiuni delicate. Dar si de distractie. Fara sa citim studii din Marea Britanie sau Chile, relatia dintre brand si tanar are cam aceleasi puncte de bifat. Aprofundam problema alaturi de Carmen Sterian (Head of Strategy, Wunderman), care ne-a povestit cum sta treaba atunci cand brandul vrea prietenii cu tanarul, dar tanarul are deja destule, cum s-ar zice... Cum se distreaza tinerii romani? In fel si chip, fiecare in felul lui, singuri, dimpreuna cu prietenii lor sau cu comunitati noi, cu creativitate, reinventare si initiativa, incercand, descoperind si adaptandu-se permanent. Ei asa invata si asa-si scriu povestile, intr-o continua aventura. Preconceptiile brandurilor despre distractiile tinerilor O sa profit de ocazie si o sa spun ca brandurile ar trebui sa inteleaga un lucru simplu. De fapt, doua realitati: generatia asta nu mai este reprezentata de catre branduri, cum au fost generatiile 34+. Asta pentru ca generatia 18-30 are spiritul ei propriu. Ei vor emotie, valoare, stil personal, lucruri simple, care conteaza si au curajul sa spuna adevarul, inclusiv-spre-mai-ales despre produse si branduri. Isi asuma rolul de creatori si participanti la curentul anti-consumerism, recomandand si criticand la liber. Un brand trebuie sa demonstreze ca ti-e prieten: ca te respecta, ca te asculta, ca te ajuta, ca te implica, in general ca iti ofera ce ai nevoie, nu vorbe goale si-atat. Banii ti-i ia oricum, deci trebuie sa merite, pentru ca tu muncesti pentru acei bani, adica iti investesti timpul si viata. Pare prea mult, dar este o abordare foarte pragmatica. A doua chestie se leaga de prima: ei sunt si trebuie tratati ca persoane, ca oameni, nu mai sunt "segmente de varsta inregimentate", carora brandul li se adreseaza. Nu le place sa-i consideri consumatori. Produsul trebuie sa fie de calitate, clar. Dar lor nu le vorbesti, nu le spui ce sa faca, nu le arati. Toata puterea unui brand sta in prietenia si sustinerea pe care le ofera, astfel incat viata ta sau lumea sa se schimbe in bine. Generatia tanara trebuie amuzata, surprinsa, distrata, provocata, sedusa pentru ca ea are nevoie de emotie, povesti reale, experiente autentice si cauze concrete si utile. Digitalul si distractia. Cat se distreaza tanarul online vs. offline? N-am un calcul exact. Digitalul este cadrul in care nevoia de transparenta, comunicare si organizare uneste generatiile pe teme de interes, inclusiv cand vine vorba de distractie. E functional. Totul este mai rapid si mai la indemana prin online: afli, alegi, dai attend, cumperi bilete, donezi, etc. fix in domeniul care te intereseaza. Dupa care participi. Dupa care comentezi la liber, ceea ce duce la imbunatatirea permanenta a ofertelor, intamplarilor, evenimentelor sau serviciilor sau la disparitia lor. Pe de alta parte, online-ul faciliteaza emotia-relatiile, discutiile, grupurile, glumele; ai gif-uri si filme cu pisici, ai pareristi, ai zeci de mii de poze, ai muzici, jocuri, celebritati, oameni care te inspira, pagini de interese, documentare, stiri de toate tipurile, povesti de toate felurile, ai de toate. Problema intervine daca exagerezi cu distractia asta online si uiti de cea offline, face to face, care-ti oxigeneaza mintile si-ti poate aduce chiar si o-mbratisare ;) :)) Ce te surprinde la modurile tinerilor de a se distra astazi? Nada. La cei mai mici decat ei ma surprinde ceva si vreau sa inteleg "de ce" pana la capat: nu mai vor sa citeasca. Punct. Asta pentru noi facea si face parte din distractie. Pentru ei pare-a fi devenit o simpla obligatie. E musai sa fii tanar ca sa vorbesti cu tineri? Da, e musai :) dar nicidecum nu este vorba despre varsta din buletin. Eu sunt dovada vie :)) Oricum, intotdeauna am invatat de la ei, asa cum, probabil, au invatat si ei de la mine. Raman curioasa, ii intreb, ii ascult, le respect "noutatea". Cam ce dai, aia primesti, indiferent de varsta. Cum eviti sa "calci" in clisee cand comunici pe tema distractiei, ca brand? Fiind curios, intreband, ascultand, respectandu-le credintele si felul lor de a fi si a face. read all aici

vineri, 11 martie 2016

paradox brings change

Changing The World Starts With You

Jay Shetty explains why changing the world begins with us.

Posted by The Huffington Post on Friday, 26 February 2016

miercuri, 10 februarie 2016

Love. A story about Presence.

I have two very dear friends. They were so different and so good toghether. They used to live in the same houses, travel to the same places, drink the same wines, share the same rings, work in the same field, organising the same seminars, helping to wake up and raise to freedom of knowing and being themselves the same people... Dear people, thankful people, people like us, working around the city or the world with the same intention: to wake up and become their better and better version day by day, for them and those around them :) A beautiful life story we shared for a while with them as guides helping us to become our own masters. That we became :) We talked a lot about all aspects of love from our lifes and shared our own experiences about, in the process. All good. But they are no longer together now. Not even professionally. I will not share here and now the entire story and why, even if I have my own perspective and oppinion on that one. For sure God knows why and maybe they will discover why someday, cause nothing is for nothing. But what I learned here is that LOVE IS PRESENCE. You have that choice. LOVE IS PRESENCE. In all sorts of relations or relationships. In all sorts of friendships, lovers included. LOVE IS PRESENCE. As per in the actual time you choose to allow to this toghetherness. And- even more important, as per the Quality of your Presence there. As per the quality of the Observer you are there to be or strive to become a COMPASIONATE mate that sees and feels the other at all times, in all situations, with all his dreams, wants and even projections, with all your and his qualities and flaws, in all PATIENCE and FAITH to listen, accept and discuss it all at the right moment, out of egotism, with the simple intention to clarify yourself, you two and your toghetherness, not necessarly change it. All these are aspects of Love. And Love Is Presence. First of all. You cannot pretend you love somebody, that you are, above all, his friend, if you are not Present to see, understand, support, fix, accept, if you are not there, opened, listening. Love is Presence. And Presence is the first gift of your Love. (and I am not talking physicality here)

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